Struggling

One of those very few hikes that we regret and wished we hadn’t done.
Luckily we planned another hike, because thanks to mother (she didn’t want to reschedule an appointment), we couldn’t come home until at least 17 o clock.
But then….
Thanks to mum, again, we had to return home asap. Yes.
She had to go to gran who has been in hospital in Woerden since the day before yesterday. Gran fell and broke her leg AND today she got a heavy bladder infection (assumption). So mother was worried.
This can happen and it’s so sad.
However..
She almost demanded for us to get back home asap to look after her dogs….
Had to pick up the phone mid very busy walk. Never pick up phone and normally don’t walk where it’s busy. Now both at the same time… She started her call by asking what “the round thing” in the garden was. I mean, we put a melon there to attract/distract snails, but but but WHY DOES SHE CARE NOW?!
Anyway
WE have to be back asap (?) to look after her dogs, when she KNOWS beforehand she will be back in only 2.5 hours….?
Yup.
She manipulated us and lied about her older dog being stressed (uhm, that dog is NEVER stressed with us, is relaxed, happy, eats treats etc) to cover up something else she didn’t want to say.
AND we warned her not to accept any of the dogs she looks after (she has 4 dogs in total today and the fifth is about to arrive).
We understand we have to feed them and walk them IF she’s not at home in time.
IF no one else available, that is…. Which there is. Everybody she knows is nearby her house (boyfriend, my brother, a lot of people she talks to in the park etc)…. except us.
What if we were in Germany? What if we didn’t live there anymore?
Don’t know what to do tbh.

Turns out it’s much more unnecessarily complicated in mum’s head and it turns out it’s not that much of an emergency and she has to go there with her sister whom she hates “to arrange things”.
Hmm
Upon arriving home:
We were a tad too late, but surprise surprise, it wasn’t an emergency (she likes to overreact to get things her way) and my mother’s sister was later. So we had to wait in the hot car where the THREE HOUSES left to mum’s house had glasfiber internet installed, the house on the RIGHT had maintainance on their windows and the two houses next to THAT HOUSE had their front doors open and were chatting to each other. Then the neighbour across the street decided to do some DYI wood sawing on the street rather than in his huge garden. It didn’t make sense at all…

On top of that…

After mother had returned home and went to walk her dogs, we noticed she didn’t return for a very long time. It was late and this means there’s something wrong, because she’s ALWAYS on time, especially when another dog is about to arrive.
Then she called. Yes, I had to pick up the phone once more today.
She’d accidently ridden the buggy with her older dog into the pond.
Didn’t look for a second (I’m guessing talking with others which she always denies) and the buggy with the dog, her phone, her bag etc ended up into the pond.
So now my man and I got to chat with the phone company, provide them with a lot of personal information to confirm that the number belongs to mother, and now she receives a new SIM card tomorrow.

Okay so now all I heard from mother is that grandma doesn’t want to continue on living and that she’s very ill, but no one’s clear clear about what’s going on. It’s scary. All I know is that mother claims she doesn’t have energy to go to grandma (how???? what does that even matter???? it’s about fucking life and death??!!) and that whenever something is going on with someone else, mother finds a way to make EVERYTHING about her and this happens A LOT, AND she claims grandma doesn’t want anyone around her.
I can’t reach grandma anymore. Something with her WiFi I think. All I believe is that she’s lonely and scared and that she’s either not good at expressing her feelings OR that she isn’t honest for the sake of idk…

Also:
How can I apply for becoming the minister of REAL health…?
Grandma needs PROPER healthcare and is NOT in the right place now.
1 caretaker per 5 hospitalised people, resulting in grandma not being able to pee whenever she needs to go (and I guess she doesn’t drink enough now in order to not needing to pee so often), this resulting in her feeling ill AND she gets CRAP food and doesn’t even get to choose what’s she eats…?! I mean, how do they expect her to get better…!! You are what you eat and she literally most likely has a calcium and vitamin D deficiency, so she needs an ABUNDANCE of healthy food in order to grow new bone tissue.
But guess what…!? They don’t CARE. All they want is to be able to feast on our sickness, to be able to keep us ILL, so that they can keep on profiting by subscribing drugs….

So I’ve just ordered gran a high dose of vitamin D and some chocolate coated mulberries for calcium. She doesn’t know and wouldn’t want me to if she knew beforehand. No one in my family wants to know about real health, so it’s my own mission now to get her to eat as best as possible. She’d never eat fruit and green veggies, so this is the second best option.